Guide to Women: Part Two

Welcome back, loves. I appreciate all the love and support that’s kept this project going! So, of course, I’m back with more tips for the men out there. This time, taking it to the next level 😉.

Includes: friends with benefits and compatibility tips.

 

– Friends with Benefits –

First of all, does friends with benefits even work out? Well….with a partner on the same page as you, yes it can. Communication and timing is key here, though. Here’s what you do:

 

Step #1: Make an early decision on where you two stand.

  • “Early” means before sex, or soon after the first time. Do not drag it out.
  • If you can’t decide what you want early on, dating isn’t the right move for you right now. Focus on yourself, before you hurt someone’s feelings.

 

Step #2: Communicate your decision.

  • Let them know you’re not ready to be in a relationship right now, then ask if they’re okay with that.
  • If they are on the same page, discuss the rules and boundaries you each want to set for friends with benefits.
  • If they’re not on the same page, part ways. It may suck sometimes, but this is the lesser of evils compared to wasting months/years of each other’s time.

 

Step #3: Be open and safe.

  • Be aware that what each of you may want right now can change. If it does, that should be openly discussed without hesitation.
  • That being said, it also shouldn’t be offensive, or uncomfortable, to ask that each of you get tested before sex.

 

Click here for personal advice on friends with benefits 😘.

 

 

– Compatibility –

To narrow this section down, I’ve listed the main topics that tend to make or break couples; along with what you should know in each topic to avoid butting heads in the future.

{Note: This is purely just a guideline. This won’t exactly determine how successful your relationship will/won’t be.}

{Also Note: Relationships can’t be one-sided. Don’t neglect to ask yourself these same questions as well.}

 

Trust

 

How do they react with other people around?

  • Does having their friends/family around make a difference in how they treat you?
  • Does having your friends/family around make a difference in how they treat you?
  • Does having strangers around make a difference in how they treat you?

 

How do they respond to flirting?

  • Do you both agree on the same definition of flirting?
  • Do they respond to the flirting the same way you would have?
  • Are they flirtatious by nature?
  • If this category isn’t solid yet, are you both willing to work on this?

 

How do you both feel about friends/family?

  • Are you both okay with hanging out with friends/family, separately?
    • Are there any limits?
  • Are you both okay with friends being of the opposite sex?
  • If this category isn’t solid yet, are you both willing to compromise on this?

 

How do you both feel about privacy?

  • Are you both okay with sharing relationship details with friends/family?
  • Are either of your friends/family members heavily involved/influential in the relationship?
    • If so, is this okay for both of you?
  • If this category isn’t solid yet, are you both willing to work on this?

 

How do you both feel about past relationships?

  • Do you both agree when it comes to keeping in communication with exes?
  • Do either one of you already keep in communication with an ex/exes?
  • If this category isn’t solid yet, are you both willing to work on this?

 


There’s an infinite number of topics you can input here. So, break down situations or traits that personally matter to you and keep an eye out.

The main idea here is to find out if you and your partner are generally on the same page; and if not, find out if you are willing to work on it together.


 

 

Money

 

Are they financially stable?

  • Are they employed?
  • Do they have a vehicle?
  • Do they live on their own?
  • Are they broadly content with their own financial situation?
  • Does their financial stability match yours at the moment?

 

Are they financially responsible?

  • What are their spending habits?
    • Do they spend within their means?
  • Do they owe any debt?
    • If so, roughly how much?
  • Do they have a plan to pay off their debt?
    • If so, have they put their plan into action, yet?
  • Do they have any other financial plans for the future?
    • If so, have they put their plan into action, yet?
  • Does their financial plan generally match yours?

 


Finances are not only extremely personal topics, but they can also change at any time for anyone.

However, being somewhat aware of a their financial mindset can be helpful in determining if you two can be on the right track to building a financially secure future together.


 

 

Communication

 

How do they react when they’re upset?

  • What causes them to get upset? And why does it upset them?
  • What, and how long, does it take for them to cool down?
  • Are they good at communicating the problem without getting upset?
  • Are they willing to take responsibility for their contribution to the problem?
    • Are you doing the same?
  • Are they open to reasonable solutions/compromises?
  • If this category isn’t solid yet, are you both willing to work on this?

 

How do they react when you’re upset?

  • Are they good at listening to the problem without getting upset?
  • Are they willing to directly address the problem?
  • Are they willing to take responsibility for their contribution to the problem?
    • Are you doing the same?
  • Are they willing to help come up with reasonable solutions/compromises?
  • If this category isn’t solid yet, are you both willing to work on this?

 


Developing communication takes tremendous effort on both sides to flourish and maintain a great relationship.

But once this is effectively established, you form an unbreakable level of respect for each other. Meaning no matter what problems arise, you’ll be able to withstand without hurting each other.


 

– Compatibility Cont. –

Communication will forever be the root of all solutions. But it always helps to gain further insight on yourself and/or your partner.

As a little bonus, I included some great websites and books I highly recommend to help with interpersonal communication and compatibility. ♡

 

1. Love Language(s) Quiz

Includes a personal quiz to determine which way(s) you prefer your partner to communicate their love to you. Also, helps you understand and comprehend your partner’s preferences as well.

Highly rated and effective in improving relationships! Includes tips and case studies to help develop better communication in your relationship.

 

2. Relationship Attachment Style Quiz

Your attachment style describes how you/your partner respond to situations within the relationship; such as: arguments, getting hurt, and/or someone leaving.

This is a great way to determine compatibility and understand yourself, or your partner, in more depth.

 

3. Emotional Injury Quiz

This test determines your general “love style” and how you cope in all relationships. Primarily based on environmental factors (childhood) and personality traits; I found it to be very accurate.

Answer the questions as honestly as possible for most accurate results.

 

4. Zodiac Signs Compatibility

One of my favorite Zodiac websites. It breaks down compatibility by percentages based on the following categories: sex & intimacy, trust, communication & intellect, emotions, values, shared activities, and also gives you a small summary at the end.

 

 


Thank you all for reading! Stay tuned for my next blogs in this series 😘. And make sure to drop some comments below to share some of your experiences I’d love to hear your stories!

Need some advice? Feel free to ask me here ❤️.

 

With love and great vibes,

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